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The Cut
The College Student Whose Exes Are Hooking Up With Each OtherThe Cut
6 min read · Jun 20th · This week’s sex diary.
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How to Win Friends and Meet Influential Peopleyoutube.com
Jun 24th · The majority of my success as a multimillionaire comes from the people that I know and the wisdom and opportunities they've granted me over the years (many w...
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welltechnically.news
SEX IS GOING OUT OF FASHIONwelltechnically.news
3 min read · Jun 22nd · With every fetish having a dedicated subreddit and every vagina a Gwyneth Paltrow candle scent, it's hard to believe sex isn't the most popular of all the cardinal sins—but by "sex" I don't mean any…
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The Cut
Help! I’m 25 and Have Never Been KissedThe Cut
5 min read · Jun 3rd · Don’t panic. Being a late bloomer just makes you more interesting.
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Cracked.com
Petty Quirks That Become Relationship Killers Over TimeCracked.com
~12 min read · Jun 21st · Things that may mean nothing today but could very well be the grounds to end your relationship tomorrow.
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6 Things I Learned Dealing with Singlehood in your 30safterglowsg.medium.com
~11 min read · Jun 21st · Very rarely, we would find someone who becomes someone we like to love, date, and marry on the first try. Most first-time relationships…
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youtube.com
Day Break: Being single | Why are people scared of being single?youtube.com
Jun 21st
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yazakenya.com
5 Unexpected Benefits Of Being Singleyazakenya.com
2 min read · Jun 21st · Because singlehood also rocks!
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The Cut
Can I Be Chill About Dating a Poly Guy?The Cut
3 min read · Jun 17th · Maybe, but it’s probably not worth the work for a casual relationship.
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Eric Barker
This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets From ResearchEric Barker
10 min read · Jun 13th · When it comes to emotionally intelligent relationships, you're probably getting in your own way. Here's how science says you can fix that...
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Psychology Today
The Value of 'No'Psychology Today
4 min read · Jun 20th · What we can learn from rejections.
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Farnam Street
Illusion of Transparency: Your Poker Face is Better Than You ThinkFarnam Street
7 min read · May 28th · We tend to think that people can easily tell what we’re thinking and feeling. They can’t. Understanding the illusion of transparency bias can improve relationships, job performance, and more.
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Our tendency to overestimate how much attention people are paying to us is a result of seeing our own perspective as the only perspective.
Psychology Today
The Value of 'No'Psychology Today
4 min read · Jun 20th · What we can learn from rejections.
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Farnam Street
Bias from Liking/Loving: Why We Comply With Those We LoveFarnam Street
9 min read · May 28th · The tendency to judge in favor of people and symbols we like is called the bias from liking or loving and it affects how we make decisions. Let's explore...
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And what will a man naturally come to like and love, apart from his parent, spouse and child? Well, he will like and love being liked and loved.”
Eric Barker
This Is How To Get People To Change: 5 Secrets From ResearchEric Barker
10 min read · May 30th · How do you get people to change? We usually go about it all wrong. Here's what the science says can help you persuade others...
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People are generally better persuaded by the reasons which they have themselves discovered than by those which have come into the mind of others
The Atlantic
The Six Forces That Fuel FriendshipThe Atlantic
8 min read · Jun 10th · I’ve spent more than three years interviewing friends for “The Friendship Files.” Here’s what I’ve learned.
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The Conversation
Showing you’re stressed may make you more likeableThe Conversation
3 min read · Jun 2nd · A first-of-its-kind study investigated what’s going on in other people’s minds during your nail-biting moments.
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We are a highly cooperative species, more so than any other animal, and we are attracted to those who are honest about their intentions and state of mind. There is nothing more honest than communicating when you are weak.
The Atlantic
How I Learned to Eat Alone and Not Be LonelyThe Atlantic
8 min read · Jun 12th · What I’ve learned from two years of solo dinners
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Joshua Becker
The Greatest Conversation Advice I Ever ReceivedJoshua Becker
May 16th
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The New York Times
Opinion | I Married the Wrong Person, and I’m So Glad I DidThe New York Times
6 min read · Jun 5th · I want to normalize significant periods of confusion, exhaustion, grief and unfulfillment in marriage.
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HuffPost
Diamonds Are BullshitHuffPost
~12 min read · Jun 15th · Let's agree that diamonds are bullshit and reject their role in the marriage process. Let's admit that as a society we got tricked for about century into coveting sparkling pieces of carbon, but it's…
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It's Later Than You Thinksahilbloom.substack.com
6 min read · Apr 20th · The harsh truth that changed my life (and may change yours)
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Time is our most precious asset and the present is all that’s guaranteed. Spend it wisely, with those you love, in ways you’ll never regret.
Farnam Street
Illusion of Transparency: Your Poker Face is Better Than You ThinkFarnam Street
7 min read · May 28th · We tend to think that people can easily tell what we’re thinking and feeling. They can’t. Understanding the illusion of transparency bias can improve relationships, job performance, and more.
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Our tendency to overestimate how much attention people are paying to us is a result of seeing our own perspective as the only perspective.
Vox
Why community matters so much — and how to find yoursVox
8 min read · Mar 24th · A community can serve as a social safety net, but finding one and becoming a part of it is different from simply making friends.
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Knowing what your values are is crucial to finding a community where you truly fit, Poswolsky says, and that can take work and soul-searching
victormong.medium.com
5 Habits That Will Make You A Human Magnetvictormong.medium.com
1 min read · May 25th · You can learn to attract the right people
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Mashable
How to stop caring what people think about youMashable
8 min read · From 2020 · It's not simple. But it's part of being human.
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Approval-seeking is usually a childhood-created coping strategy. Did you feel a need to get love from your parents and create ways to gain their approval? Did you struggle to make friends at school, and subsequently develop a fear of being rejected?" she said. "By identifying where the approval-seeking started, you can identify the types of situations that trigger your need for approval in your current life."
The New York Times
Opinion | The Science of Reasoning With Unreasonable PeopleThe New York Times
6 min read · 2021-01-31 · Don’t try to change someone else’s mind. Instead, help them find their own motivation to change.
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Don’t try to change someone else’s mind. Instead, help them find their own motivation to change.
Aeon+Psyche
Why some of the smartest people can be so very stupidAeon+Psyche
5 min read · 2021-08-04 · Struggling to understand is perfectly honourable. Being wilfully stupid is something else and we should strive to fix it
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What exactly is stupidity? How does it relate to morality: can you be morally good and stupid, for example?
MIT Technology Review
First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of SocietyMIT Technology Review
8 min read · From 2017 · Dating websites have changed the way couples meet. Now evidence is emerging that this change is influencing levels of interracial marriage and even the stability of marriage itself.
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Quartz
Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasonsQuartz
20+ min read · From 2017 · I asked 1,500 people for relationship advice, and kept getting the same answers.
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The other “wrong” reason to enter into a relationship is, like Greg said, to “fix” yourself. This desire to use the love of someone else to soothe your own emotional problems inevitably leads to codependence
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