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9 Best Articles in 2021
Mashable
How to stop caring what people think about youMashable
8 min read · 2020-02-26 · It's not simple. But it's part of being human.
psychology
relationships
mental health
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advised asking for change if situations arise that might violate your boundaries, like if someone speaks to you in a way that you don't like. "With tone of voice, if you decide that contempt, impatience and irritation is not acceptable, the next time it happens, simply say, 'Please don't talk to me like that,' and just be firm and don't engage when someone is speaking to you in a tone that is unacceptable to you,"
Approval-seeking is usually a childhood-created coping strategy. Did you feel a need to get love from your parents and create ways to gain their approval? Did you struggle to make friends at school, and subsequently develop a fear of being rejected?" she said. "By identifying where the approval-seeking started, you can identify the types of situations that trigger your need for approval in your current life."
The New York Times
Opinion | The Science of Reasoning With Unreasonable PeopleThe New York Times
6 min read · Jan 31st · Don’t try to change someone else’s mind. Instead, help them find their own motivation to change.
psychology
relationships
conflict
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Yet experiments show that preaching and prosecuting typically backfire — and what doesn’t sway people may strengthen their beliefs. Much as a vaccine inoculates the physical immune system against a virus, the act of resistance fortifies the psychological immune system. Refuting a point of view produces antibodies against future attempts at influence, making people more certain of their own opinions and more ready to rebut alternatives.
Don’t try to change someone else’s mind. Instead, help them find their own motivation to change.
MIT Technology Review
First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of SocietyMIT Technology Review
8 min read · From 2017 · Dating websites have changed the way couples meet. Now evidence is emerging that this change is influencing levels of interracial marriage and even the stability of marriage itself.
dating
social networks
technology
Quartz
Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasonsQuartz
20+ min read · From 2017 · I asked 1,500 people for relationship advice, and kept getting the same answers.
relationships
marriage
love
The New York Times
The Losses We ShareThe New York Times
4 min read · 2020-11-25 · Perhaps the path to healing begins with three simple words: Are you OK?
mental health
relationships
empathy
Elemental
Curiosity Is the Secret to a Happy LifeElemental
6 min read · 2020-02-14 · Engaging with the unfamiliar can keep mind and body fit. So how to pump up one’s levels of curiosity?
psychology
self
relationships
The New York Times
Why You Will Marry the Wrong PersonThe New York Times
2 min read · From 2016 · Embrace a philosophy of pessimism. Every human will disappoint you, and you’ll do the same to them.
relationships
marriage
culture
FORTUNE
The Tinder algorithm, explainedFORTUNE
~11 min read · From 2019 · Some math-based advice for those still swiping this Valentine’s Day.
tinder
algorithm
relationships
Guardian Tech
I asked Tinder for my data. It sent me 800 pages of my deepest, darkest secretsGuardian Tech
6 min read · From 2017 · Reading through all this intimate information I realised the dating app knows me better than I do. But what happens if this data gets hacked – or worse, sold?
tinder
privacy
personal data
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The Origins of Double Standards in Toxic Relationships
Psychology Today
When Your Mother Plays the Victim
Psychology Today
Why Did My Mother Keep Me a Secret?
Vogue Magazine
Opinion | How Life Looks Through My ‘Whale Eyes’
The New York Times
The Blurred Lines of Parasocial Relationships
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Why Verbal Abuse Can Do So Much Damage
Psychology Today
5 Practices of Resilient Relationships
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Aeon+Psyche
How to love your bodyAeon+Psyche
~13 min read · Jul 14th · Are you unhappy with what you see in the mirror? Getting comfortable in your own skin can be hard work, but it’s worth it
better living
relationships
body positivity
Entrepreneur
How to Become a Master at Talking to StrangersEntrepreneur
~16 min read · Jul 7th · Entrepreneurs must become experts at connecting with anyone-and with a few simple strategies, you can. Here's what happened when I tried them myself.
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The New York Times
Opinion | There’s a Specific Kind of Joy We’ve Been MissingThe New York Times
6 min read · Jul 10th · We find our greatest bliss in moments of “collective effervescence.”
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Scientific American
The Neuroscience of Taking Turns in a ConversationScientific American
3 min read · Jul 13th · Research in birds suggests that when one partner speaks, the other partner’s brain is inhibited from talking over them
relationships
brain
Every
The Blurred Lines of Parasocial RelationshipsEvery
~19 min read · Jul 15th · The disappearing divide between “followers” and “friends”
relationships
digital life
creator economy
The Conversation
Danish children struggle to learn their vowel-filled languageThe Conversation
5 min read · Jun 29th · Recent research on Danish shows that not only is it hard for Danish children to learn their mother tongue, but adult Danes use their native language differently than speakers of other languages.
language
relationships
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There has been a longstanding debate within the language sciences about whether all languages are similarly complex and whether this might affect how people’s brains learn and process language. Our discovery about Danish challenges the idea that all native languages are equally easy to learn and use. Indeed, learning different languages from birth may lead to distinct and separate ways of processing those languages.
Many current interventions meant to support language recovery are based on studies in one language, usually English. Researchers assume that these interventions would apply in the same way to individuals speaking other languages. However, if languages vary substantially in the way they’re learned and processed, an intervention that might work for one language might not work as well for another.
Marginal Revolution
How do you ask good questions?Marginal Revolution
3 min read · Jun 30th · Ryan writes to me: Consuming the different variety of media in which you publish ideas, I’ve noticed that you pose very high quality questions. For me, high quality questions have a Heideggerian…
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warzel.substack.com
How To Have Difficult Conversationswarzel.substack.com
9 min read · Jul 14th · Hint: Not on Twitter!
relationships
Psychology Today
Parents' Powerful Impact on Young Children’s BrainsPsychology Today
4 min read · Jul 8th · All experiences and interactions shape the brain via neuroplastic remodeling.
parenting
relationships
Psychology Today
Why Verbal Abuse Can Do So Much DamagePsychology Today
7 min read · Jul 18th
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