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9 Best Articles in 2022
Mashable
How to stop caring what people think about youMashable
8 min read · 2020-02-26 · It's not simple. But it's part of being human.
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Approval-seeking is usually a childhood-created coping strategy. Did you feel a need to get love from your parents and create ways to gain their approval? Did you struggle to make friends at school, and subsequently develop a fear of being rejected?" she said. "By identifying where the approval-seeking started, you can identify the types of situations that trigger your need for approval in your current life."
The New York Times
Opinion | The Science of Reasoning With Unreasonable PeopleThe New York Times
6 min read · 2021-01-31 · Don’t try to change someone else’s mind. Instead, help them find their own motivation to change.
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Don’t try to change someone else’s mind. Instead, help them find their own motivation to change.
Aeon+Psyche
Why some of the smartest people can be so very stupidAeon+Psyche
5 min read · 2021-08-04 · Struggling to understand is perfectly honourable. Being wilfully stupid is something else and we should strive to fix it
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psychology
leadership
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What exactly is stupidity? How does it relate to morality: can you be morally good and stupid, for example?
MIT Technology Review
First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of SocietyMIT Technology Review
8 min read · From 2017 · Dating websites have changed the way couples meet. Now evidence is emerging that this change is influencing levels of interracial marriage and even the stability of marriage itself.
dating
social networks
technology
Quartz
Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasonsQuartz
20+ min read · From 2017 · I asked 1,500 people for relationship advice, and kept getting the same answers.
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The other “wrong” reason to enter into a relationship is, like Greg said, to “fix” yourself. This desire to use the love of someone else to soothe your own emotional problems inevitably leads to codependence
Aeon+Psyche
The virtue of honesty requires more than just telling the truthAeon+Psyche
8 min read · 2021-12-13 · Honesty has fallen out of fashion, yet it is essential to self-improvement. How can we cultivate this neglected virtue?
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honest behaviour is a matter of not intentionally distorting the facts as the honest person sees them.
The Atlantic
What Bobby McIlvaine Left BehindThe Atlantic
2021-08-09 · Grief, conspiracy, and one family’s search for meaning in the two decades since 9/11
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“It felt like she was saying my grief was less important than hers,” Jen said. “I remember thinking, How does she know I’m going to be okay?”
Ness Labs
The Praise Paradox: when well-​intended words backfireNess Labs
4 min read · 2021-06-11 · Most people would agree: praise is one of the most effective ways to build children’s self-esteem. We are told to be generous with our praise, and to find as many opportunities as possible to praise…
leadership
career
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Adults are inclined to give children with low self-esteem person praise (e.g., “You’re smart!”) and inflated praise
TED-Ed
How to exit a conversation without being a jerkTED-Ed
2021-12-02 · Kio Stark loves to talk to strangers — but she knows every exchange started is one that must be ended. Here, she shares how to gracefully step away. I’ve spent much of the last decade studying (and…
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culture
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When there is a real or perceived differential in power or status, the person with more gravitas has the right to end the interaction and may choose to do so politely or not.
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Letters of Note
From Salary Guilt To Imposter Syndrome: Here’s What It’s Really Like To Work With Your Best Friend
Refinery29
Show Some Emotion
The Baffler
A Tinder Revenge Story
New York Magazine
Trying to make other people happy makes us happier than trying to make ourselves happy
PsyPost.org
Mozilla Explains: Dating Apps, AI and Collaborative Filtering
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PsyPost.org
Trying to make other people happy makes us happier than trying to make ourselves happyPsyPost.org
3 min read · Jan 19th · The secret to happiness may lie in doing things to make other people happy, rather than ourselves, according to a series of five studies published in the Journal of Positive Psychology. The findings…
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psychology
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The secret to happiness may lie in doing things to make other people happy, rather than ourselves
Aeon+Psyche
How subtle eye signals help turn-taking in conversationAeon+Psyche
3 min read · Jan 1st · We take turns in conversation by constantly shifting gaze. When aphasia impairs that ability, communication shuts down
psychology
relationships
communication skills
Outside
What the Men Who Love My Boyfriend Taught Me About Social HierarchyOutside
6 min read · Jan 17th · Living in a remote mountain town made him irresistible to curious dudes—and got me wondering why we assign so much importance to where people are from
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Almost every interaction we have, he says, includes micro- or macro- deferences that establish some sort of hierarchy between the individuals
The School of Life
Why Your Lover is Very DamagedThe School of Life
5 min read · 2021-12-25 · It sounds deeply unromantic to devote sustained attention to the flaws of one’s partner. In love, we’re supposed to be merely entranced by all that’s admirable about the other. Yet getting a clear…
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New York Magazine
A Tinder Revenge StoryNew York Magazine
~18 min read · Jan 14th · The revolutionary dating app made a lot of people rich. Co-founder Sean Rad didn’t feel rich enough.
digital life
relationships
The Baffler
Show Some EmotionThe Baffler
8 min read · Jan 18th · Three recent projects demonstrate the impossibility of comprehensively cataloguing human feelings.
relationships
psychology
emotions
Mozilla
Mozilla Explains: Dating Apps, AI and Collaborative FilteringMozilla
Jan 2nd · Dating app usage is on the rise. If you're one of the millions of people looking for love online, you might be wondering, how does the app know who to show you next?
digital life
relationships
Aeon+Psyche
Digital entanglement is changing the nature of breakupsAeon+Psyche
6 min read · 2021-12-15 · We interviewed people about their breakups to find out how matters were complicated by being technologically intertwined
relationships
psychology
Letters of Note
'I hate everybody including you'Letters of Note
Jan 25th · The art of saying no
relationships
Refinery29
From Salary Guilt To Imposter Syndrome: Here’s What It’s Really Like To Work With Your Best FriendRefinery29
5 min read · Jan 25th · Would you want to work with your best friend? We chat to the After Work Drinks podcast duo and others who have done just that.
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