8 min read · 2020-02-26 · It's not simple. But it's part of being human.
Approval-seeking is usually a childhood-created coping strategy. Did you feel a need to get love from your parents and create ways to gain their approval? Did you struggle to make friends at school, and subsequently develop a fear of being rejected?" she said. "By identifying where the approval-seeking started, you can identify the types of situations that trigger your need for approval in your current life."
8 min read · From 2017 · Dating websites have changed the way couples meet. Now evidence is emerging that this change is influencing levels of interracial marriage and even the stability of marriage itself.
20+ min read · From 2017 · I asked 1,500 people for relationship advice, and kept getting the same answers.
The other “wrong” reason to enter into a relationship is, like Greg said, to “fix” yourself. This desire to use the love of someone else to soothe your own emotional problems inevitably leads to codependence
4 min read · 2021-06-11 · Most people would agree: praise is one of the most effective ways to build children’s self-esteem. We are told to be generous with our praise, and to find as many opportunities as possible to praise…
Adults are inclined to give children with low self-esteem person praise (e.g., “You’re smart!”) and inflated praise
2021-12-02 · Kio Stark loves to talk to strangers — but she knows every exchange started is one that must be ended. Here, she shares how to gracefully step away. I’ve spent much of the last decade studying (and…
When there is a real or perceived differential in power or status, the person with more gravitas has the right to end the interaction and may choose to do so politely or not.
3 min read · Jan 19th · The secret to happiness may lie in doing things to make other people happy, rather than ourselves, according to a series of five studies published in the Journal of Positive Psychology. The findings…
The secret to happiness may lie in doing things to make other people happy, rather than ourselves
5 min read · 2021-12-25 · It sounds deeply unromantic to devote sustained attention to the flaws of one’s partner. In love, we’re supposed to be merely entranced by all that’s admirable about the other. Yet getting a clear…