The Best Articles in Relationships
The most useful articles and videos in Relationships from around the web—beginners to advanced—curated by thought leaders and our community. We focus on timeless pieces and update the list whenever we discover new, must-read articles or videos—make sure to bookmark and revisit this page.
Top 5 Relationships Articles
At a glance: these are the articles that have been most read, shared, and saved in Relationships by Refind users in 2023 so far.
Videos
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How to win a negotiation, with former FBI hostage chief Chris Voss
Negotiation isn’t about logic & reason. It’s about emotional intelligence, explains former FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss.Subscribe to Big Think on YouTub...
Authenticity and Purpose
Purpose is foundational at home and at work. When we can show up as our true selves in both of those places, that is authenticity. + + +Simon is an unshakabl...
Why you're so judgemental 👀
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"Listener's Judo" as a skill goes beyond active listening. #shorts
Chris Voss is the Founder and CEO of the Black Swan Group Ltd. He has used his many years of experience in international crisis and high stakes negotiations ...
What is ...?
New to Relationships? These articles make an excellent introduction.
What Is Love?
No, seriously. What does it mean to be in love?
«Love == intimacy + passion+ commitment»
How to ...?
How To Meet Each of the 3 Sets of Needs In a Relationship
There are three sets of needs in a relationship, but they can't all be reached at once. Here, get a framework for how to prioritize them.
«many of the people I work with actually need to become needier in order to feel healthy and have more fulfilling lives. Both having needs and being needed by others are completely normal states of being»
How to have better arguments
Arguing well isn’t just about winning. A philosophical approach will help you and the other person get much more out of it
«the one who loses in a philosophical dispute gains more the more he learns»
How to handle a lopsided friendship
If you think a pal is way less (or way more) invested than you are, here’s what to do.
«A lopsided friendship happens when one friend is more active in maintaining contact and the other friend is more passive about keeping the connection going»
How to Make New Friends Whether You’re an Introvert or Extrovert
Two friendship coaches break down myths about personality types and let us in on how to take part in new social situations with deeper connections — and less anxiety.
«What most people don’t know about extroverts is that although they are often the life of the party and approach new people and conversations with ease, they can end up feeling less connected and unsatisfied because their connections reach wide but not as deep.»
How to forgive someone who isn’t sorry
Some people will never admit wrongdoing. It’s still possible for you to move forward.
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These Are The 8 Friends You Need To Be Happy In Life
Research shows there are 8 different types of friends you need in order to feel fulfilled. Here's what they are and how to find them.
The Eight Kinds of Humility That Can Help You Stay Grounded
There are many ways to be humble, according to recent research.
Improve your relationships with the science of perspective-taking
Social psychology research is breaking down the process of perspective-taking and revealing ways to help us get along better
3 Things to Do If You Can’t Stop Thinking About That Thing You Said
You know, THAT thing. Ugh—why DID you say that?!
What is Influence
One cannot understand influence without knowing how to quantify it.
Short Articles
Short on time? Check out these useful short articles in Relationships—all under 10 minutes.
Narcissism: Where It Comes From and How to Deal With It
Narcissism is way more complex and, quite frankly, way more annoying than we think it is.
«The past decade or two has seen a very public debate about the possibility of a narcissism “epidemic” in our current culture, especially among young people.»
The Problem of What Others Think
Shared by 1523, including Essaadi
«happens by removing the influences that no longer serve you, and allowing the remainder to act as guideposts for the person you know yourself to be.»
How To Be A More Interesting Person — Barry Fralick
Uncovering the secrets of How To Be A More Interesting Person
«Mystery is something that leaves people curious. And too many of us show our cards right from the get-go.»
Why are we so critical of ourselves after meeting someone new? Self-protection.
We tend to be defensive socially. When we meet new people, we’re often concerned with how we’re coming off. Our anxiety causes us to be so concerned with the impression we’re creating that we fail to…
«Concerningly, when the results were analyzed, says the study, “The liking gap persisted over short, medium, and long conversations and even over the course of a year, as suite mates developed new relationships.” This means that first impressions really do matter, in the sense that they help us develop habits regarding how we feel about others and how they feel about us.»
How much social interaction do you actually need?
You don’t need to make new friends to have a fulfilling social life.
«chronically lonely people who lack a desire to interact need the help of a mental health professional, Hall says.»
Long Articles
These are some of the most-read long-form articles in Relationships.
The unbearable allure of cringe
What does secondhand embarrassment say about your own anxieties and biases?
«It was, in a strange way, freeing to see other people bumble through life, and made us think about being less hard on ourselves.»
How should we understand the weird experience of coincidence?
I am an unequivocal rationalist and yet I still want to see something strange and wonderful in life’s weird coincidences
What the Longest Study on Human Happiness Found Is the Key to a Good Life
The Harvard Study of Adult Development has established a strong correlation between deep relationships and well-being. The question is, how does a person nurture those deep relationships?
«Loneliness has a physical effect on the body. It can render people more sensitive to pain, suppress their immune system, diminish brain function, and disrupt sleep»
A good conversation relaxes the mind and opens the heart
A good conversation bridges the distances between people and imbues life with pleasure and a sense of discovery
‘Wait, am I the fool here?’: why our fears of being scammed are corrosive and damaging
The long read: Is our tendency to expect the worst of people preventing us from supporting those who really need help?
Thought Leaders
We monitor hundreds of thought leaders, influencers, and newsletters in Relationships, including:
Mark Manson
3x #1 NYTimes bestselling author of "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" and others. Giving life advice that doesn't suck since 2008.
Tim Urban
Writer, infant
Aeon+Psyche
Aeon is a magazine of ideas and culture. Psyche is our sister magazine focused on the human condition. Visit http://aeon.co and http://psyche.co for more.

Priya Parker
Facilitator • Author, THE ART OF GATHERING from @RiverheadBooks • Host & EP, TOGETHER APART @nytimes podcast • Mrs. @AnandWrites. Follow me on IG.

Irene Caselli
✍️🏻The First 1,000 Days newsletter on children & carers | SoJo | Advisor @DartCenter | @newmarkjschool 21 | Feminist mama | Journo past @BBCWorld @The_Corres
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