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The New York Times
A Study of Friendship Where the Past Really Is Another Country
The New York Times
4 min read · Sep 27th · Kamila Shamsie’s new novel, “Best of Friends,” follows its title characters from their Pakistani girlhoods to their adult lives in London. · Shared by 64
Psychology Today
Think You Talk Too Much? New Research Suggests Otherwise
Psychology Today
4 min read · Sep 29th · We think people won’t like us if we talk too much, but that isn't always true. · Shared by 100
Neuroscience News
Being Lonely and Unhappy Accelerates Aging More Than Smoking
Neuroscience News
2 min read · Sep 27th · Loneliness, restless sleep, and unhappiness have a significant effect on biological aging, a new study reports. · Shared by 30
Refinery29 UK
Love Bombing Can Feel A Lot Like Romance — Here’s How To Tell Them Apart
Refinery29 UK
4 min read · Sep 22nd · Love bombing can be hard to detect since kind gestures can be mistaken for genuine interest. Here’s how to know if you’re dating a love bomber. · Shared by 69
The Cut
‘My Husband Hates Our Open Marriage!’
The Cut
4 min read · Sep 16th · You deserve to have your desires fulfilled. But proceed carefully. · Shared by 66
Scientific American
How Gaslighting Manipulates Reality
Scientific American
~12 min read · Sep 19th · Gaslighting isn’t just between people in a relationship—it involves social power, too · Shared by 130, including Jo Hemmings 🇺🇦
sive.rs
shortest date, and ketchup
sive.rs
2 min read · Sep 14th · 2022-09-12 Here’s a story about my shortest date, and ketchup. I was dating in New York City, and matched with someone named Kelly. We agreed to meet, so I called her to decide where. She had a… · Shared by 86, including Derek Sivers
WIRED
How I Learned Confidence from Online Posers
WIRED
2 min read · Sep 17th · It took a few bad dates to remind me to embody the confidence that I knew I had, but also sought in a partner. · Shared by 75, including Alicia Cocchi
The New York Times
The Unexpected Power of Random Acts of Kindness
The New York Times
5 min read · Sep 2nd · New research shows small gestures matter even more than we may think. · Shared by 101, including Robert Roy Britt, Ben Miller, Dr. Laura Markham, Jo Hemmings 🇺🇦, Carrie Brown, Esther Schindler
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TED Talks
Why does it hurt so much when we get ghosted? A psychologist explains
TED Talks
8 min read · Sep 9th · The uncertainty of ghosting is not really what causes us pain. Instead, it hits us at an even greater point of human vulnerability: Our desire to belong and be loved. Behavioral scientist Michelle … · Shared by 535, including Stephanie A Kowalski
Greater Good
When You Feel Jealous, Think About Cultivating “Compersion”
Greater Good
~11 min read · Sep 19th · New research on empathic joy points the way to closer intimate relationships. · Shared by 422, including Stephanie A Kowalski
Inverse
Emotional intelligence might make you more resilient, but there’s a catch
Inverse
4 min read · Sep 5th · The tricky thing about emotional intelligence is that despite being widely agreed to be a positive attribute, experts don’t agree on what it is. · Shared by 348
Eric Barker
This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Arguments: 4 Secrets
Eric Barker
9 min read · Sep 18th · We all have to deal with irrational people. How can we bring them back to sanity and have fewer arguments? Here's what experts advise... · Shared by 329
Quillette
Against Authenticity
Quillette
6 min read · Sep 8th · To be human is to be artificial. · Shared by 311, including Beate Jordaan, Gabriele, Rick Powell
Aeon+Psyche
How do good conversations work? Philosophy has something to say
Aeon+Psyche
6 min read · Sep 13th · The idea of what makes for a successful conversation is always tricky, and has always been contested by philosophers · Shared by 268, including Anita Leirfall, Brian Laung Aoaeh, CFA, Marylin Delgado, Jason Silva
MEL Magazine
A Gentleman’s Guide to Getting Out of a Conversation
MEL Magazine
~12 min read · Sep 14th · “Shut up.” “Please shut up.” “Shut your giant flapping mouth-hole before I blow my fucking brains out all over this Denny’s you fucking waste of... · Shared by 236
Greater Good
Four Ways to Cool Down Your Defensiveness
Greater Good
7 min read · Sep 13th · Our brains make us naturally defensive, but there are steps we can take to cultivate more humility. · Shared by 208, including Nir Eyal
WIRED
'Date Me' Google Docs and the Hyper-Optimized Quest for Love
WIRED
2 min read · Sep 2nd · Some people have ditched dating apps—and opted to bare their souls via a public, view-only link instead. · Shared by 194, including Chaotic Goode, Casey Newton, Theodora (Theo) Lau - 劉䂀曼 🌻, Taylor Lorenz, Backchannel
Greater Good
Is Your Empathy Biased?
Greater Good
7 min read · Aug 30th · A new book argues that our perspectives are always limited, but we can understand other people better if we learn to use empathy wisely. · Shared by 175
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Psychology Today
The Value of 'No'
Psychology Today
4 min read · Jun 20th · What we can learn from rejections. · Shared by 3317
sahilbloom.substack.com
It's Later Than You Think
sahilbloom.substack.com
6 min read · Apr 20th · The harsh truth that changed my life (and may change yours) · Shared by 3196, including Yana O, gabriel rath
Farnam Street
Illusion of Transparency: Your Poker Face is Better Than You Think
Farnam Street
7 min read · May 28th · We tend to think that people can easily tell what we’re thinking and feeling. They can’t. Understanding the illusion of transparency bias can improve relationships, job performance, and more. · Shared by 2245, including Doug Sundheim, fnord, Tarik ESSAADI, davidabrock, Scott Monty, Ines Bieler, David Travis, Neil Hart 💙
Tim Harford
How to really change someone’s mind
Tim Harford
4 min read · Aug 4th · I’ve been thinking recently about three debates. In the first, which took place in January 2016, two Harvard students, Fanele Mashwama and Bo Seo, proposed that “the world’s poor would be justified… · Shared by 1549, including Gabriele
Farnam Street
Bias from Liking/Loving: Why We Comply With Those We Love
Farnam Street
9 min read · May 28th · The tendency to judge in favor of people and symbols we like is called the bias from liking or loving and it affects how we make decisions. Let's explore... · Shared by 1296, including Mohamed Azazy, Stephanie A Kowalski, Matthew Turland
Nir Eyal
Why Values In a Relationship Are What Make It Last (Or Not)
Nir Eyal
2 min read · Jul 26th · You don’t have to agree on everything, but you do have to be aligned. Divorce sucks. My friend is going through one right now. The worst part is that he saw it coming. And he’s not the first of my… · Shared by 1049
victormong.medium.com
5 Habits That Will Make You A Human Magnet
victormong.medium.com
1 min read · May 25th · You can learn to attract the right people · Shared by 1045
Farnam Street
The Art of Being Alone
Farnam Street
6 min read · Jun 21st · Loneliness has more to do with our perceptions than how much company we have. It’s just as possible to be painfully lonely surrounded by people as it is to be content with little social contact. Some… · Shared by 1034, including Scott Monty, Jason Lauritsen
Big Think
What causes poverty? Not a lack of money, but a lack of social relationships.
Big Think
5 min read · Aug 5th · There's a lot missing from debates and policy surrounding poverty but the biggest deficit, according to Dr C. Nicole Mason, is in honesty. Impoverished people aren't poor because they're lazy, they're… · Shared by 1024, including David Pennington, Gabriele
