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Forget mantras and self-help that do not work. Use these simple self-parenting strategies to make lasting changes in your life.
Self-compassion techniques aren’t self-indulgent – they’ll tame your inner critic while helping you change for the better
«So I dedicated 10 minutes to sit down and reflect on the same questions I ask my clients to help them clarify their values. These were my answers:»
Constantly saying yes to everything and everyone drains us of time and energy. This episode helps explain the roots of people-pleasing behaviors and how you can say no more often.
«A hard no is clear, concise and brief — "No, thank you" or a "Thanks so much for asking. But I'm not able to this week." A soft no might be easier for a recovering people pleaser. That's when you give more of an explanation. For example: "Thank you so much for asking me to do this project. It sounds really exciting, but I don't have the bandwidth for it at this time." Simple.»
Chock-full of goofy and irreverent metaphors, this post from self-help author Mark Manson is a fun read. Don't let the irreverent tone fool you - Manson has sharp insights into what self-esteem is, why it has such a hold on the popular imagination, and why that hold is perhaps misplaced. His casual style, and adult language might not appeal to everyone, but it's certainly not boring. He helpfully includes footnotes to deeper reads if you're interested in a more in-depth approach and provides essential tips for cultivating a healthy sense of self-appreciation.
Do you have a lot of self-help books on your reading list? This simple system helps you to read a self-help book in 90 minutes.
How rituals can help you approach basic tasks more mindfully.
«Currey describes a ritual as an activity that eases a person into a focused mindset, a liminal state that is conducive for thinking, creating, or just being. “Rituals create and mark a transition towards a different kind of mental or emotional state,” he said. This can look different for every person, but it’s helpful to approach rituals as a soothing, meditative activity that allows the participant to be physically and mentally present»
The more I read, the better I felt about my life.
Today is my birthday. I turn 70. I've learned a few things so far that might be helpful to others. For the past few years, I've jotted down bits of unsolicited advice each year and much to my surprise I
The other day I made an advice thread based on Jacobian’s from last year! If you know a source for one of these, shout and I’ll edit it in. Possessions 1 .If you want to find out about people’s…
«It is cheap for people to talk about their values, goals, rules, and lifestyle. When people’s actions contradict their talk, pay attention! »
Those who lack a clear self-concept might get consumed by another’s experience, becoming distressed rather than helpful
Everyone from Silicon Valley billionaires to self-help enthusiasts is repurposing Stoicism for our modern age, with results that are good, bad, and highly indifferent.
«Things like “wake up early,” “go for a walk,” “journal,” “eat well,” “read,” and “get active” are good pieces of advice, but surely not specifically Stoic behaviors. »
The basic advice in hundreds of bestsellers is older than you think.
«life is suffering. Once you accept this, the next level is not simply to expect it — but to rush headlong into the things that make you afraid.»
What the self-help gurus and their critics reveal about our times.
Look, I know what you want to hear. I know you want to hear that everything is going to be alright—no, better than alright, that it's going to be fucking amazeballs. I know you want to hear that the…
Woolf loathed it but it spurred her on. Hemingway drew ideas of manliness from it. Self-help haunted the modernist imagination
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