Gratitude traps: why we should be critical of gratefulness
Although practising gratitude is seen as a positive practice, forcing gratitude could lead to gratitude traps. These traps could have a detrimental impact on your wellbeing.
«Comparative gratitude is an attempt to make us feel better about ourselves, but it does not help us to see the positives in our lives.»
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