“It felt like she was saying my grief was less important than hers,” Jen said. “I remember thinking, How does she know I’m going to be okay?”
It’s the damnedest thing: The dead abandon you; then, with the passage of time, you abandon the dead.
There are people that need me. And that, in itself, is life. There are people I do not know yet that need me. That is life. To me, that is the most profound quote from the recovered diary. That is Bobby as Yoda. That is Bobby at his very finest, his most humane, his most mature. He understood that our commitments to one another are what we’re here for—and that, in itself, is life. Even when those commitments are hard. Even when they cause us pain.