The Six Forces That Fuel Friendship
I’ve spent more than three years interviewing friends for “The Friendship Files.” Here’s what I’ve learned.
«I’ve come to believe that friendship doesn’t always have to be about presence; it can also be about love that can weather absence.»
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The Internet Is Rotting
Too much has been lost already. The glue that holds humanity’s knowledge together is coming undone.
«Society can’t understand itself if it can’t be honest with itself, and it can’t be honest with itself if it can only live in the present moment»
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When Virtues Become Vices
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«When addictive behaviors override our desires, it may be a sign to investigate the gap between what we crave and what’s really good for us.»
The Biggest Problem With Remote Work
Companies need a new kind of middle manager: the synchronizer.
«The synchronizer—or, for large companies, a team of synchronizers—would be responsible for solving the new-worker, new-group, and new-idea problems.»
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The Value of 'No'
What we can learn from rejections.
«If you hear "yes" at every single career stage, you probably did not reach high enough. If you never hear "no," chances are you did not take many risks (or you are just exceptionally talented, lucky, or both).»
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