Whether you’re overwhelmed by stress, or going through grief, or coping with depression or anxiety, detaching is a short-term solution that creates a long-term problem. Too much detached self-soothing and life starts to lose its brightness and pleasure and begins to feel empty. Schema therapy offers some steps you can take to get back on track.
Depending on how well your parents validated your emotions, you may have developed certain ways of understanding the world and coping in response to friction, neglect, pressure, or unmet needs.
FROM BIRTH, WE HAVE THESE FIVE CORE NEEDS: To have safe, secure relationships with loved ones To feel it’s OK to make mistakes and be imperfect To say how we feel and what we need To have loving discipline and structure that isn’t mean in tone To feel free to be joyful, spontaneous, and creative