Many of us take it for granted that coping requires some degree of self-deception — but that’s just not true. Writer and podcaster Julia Galef shares some better strategies we can use t… Open at source
One of the most fundamental human needs is to feel like things are basically OK — that we’re not failures, that the world isn’t a horrible place, and that whatever life throws at us, we’ll be able to handle it.
“Whenever I have found out that I have blundered, or that my work has been imperfect, and when I have been contemptuously criticized, and even when I have been overpraised, so that I have felt mortified, it has been my greatest comfort to say hundreds of times to myself that ‘I have worked as hard and as well as I could, and no man can do more than this.'”
“a vitally important yet underappreciated skill: Being able to see things as they are, not as you wish they were.”