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3 healthier ways to cope with criticism, disappointment and defeat

Many of us take it for granted that coping requires some degree of self-deception — but that’s just not true. Writer and podcaster Julia Galef shares some better strategies we can use t…

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One of the most fundamental human needs is to feel like things are basically OK — that we’re not failures, that the world isn’t a horrible place, and that whatever life throws at us, we’ll be able to handle it.

“Whenever I have found out that I have blundered, or that my work has been imperfect, and when I have been contemptuously criticized, and even when I have been overpraised, so that I have felt mortified, it has been my greatest comfort to say hundreds of times to myself that ‘I have worked as hard and as well as I could, and no man can do more than this.'”

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