The Best of SELF
10+ most popular SELF articles, as voted by our community.
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SELF on Better Living
How to Feel Like You Have More Free Time Even If You Don’t
Making space for doing nothing is part of it.
«Discretionary time is time spent how you want, not how you have to,” Dr. Holmes explains—so not just the hours you aren’t working or sleeping. To see how much free time you actually have»
SELF on Mental Health
The Best Way to Deal With Your Most Miserable Feelings Might Be…Doing Nothing
Sitting with uncomfortable emotions can make them more bearable.
«Acceptance is an active choice that you’re making in the moment to cope with a feeling that you don’t want, but that you can’t do anything else about right now,»
How to Calm Your Nerves When You’re Freaking Out, According to Experts
Try these tips when you feel like you want to crawl out of your skin.
«“Dysregulation of the nervous system happens when you’re in fight-or-flight response»
SELF on Mindfulness
What Does It Mean to Really, Truly Rest?
And when are we just swathing toxic productivity in soft pants and a robe?
The Case for True Rest Over ‘Active Recovery’
Yes, there’s a difference. And it’s an important one.
SELF on Relationships
3 Things to Do If You REALLY Want to Cancel Plans but Feel Guilty
Start by figuring out your unmet needs.
The Best Things to Read and Watch When You're Grieving
Loss can be terribly isolating, but art can be a soothing balm that helps you feel less alone.
SELF on Self Care
Self-Care Isn’t Enough—We Need Political Action
Our health and well-being is dependent on systemic change and robust systems of support.
SELF on Self Compassion
Here’s How to Actually Be Kinder to Yourself
Self-compassion isn’t silly—and it can make life’s challenges so much more manageable.
«And one study published in 2009 suggests that people with high levels of self-compassion may be more likely to feel happy and optimistic about the future, even in situations of perceived failure and rejection. »
SELF on Tiktok
TikTok Is Changing the Way We Talk About ADHD—For Better and Worse
The app has shed much-needed light on the condition, but many of the videos are also misleading.
«Girls with ADHD, who tend to be more forgetful or disorganized than hyperactive, often aren’t diagnosed until later on in life, studies suggest»
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50 of Our All-Time Best Mental Health Tips to Help You Feel a Little Bit Better
Pick a tip, any tip!
5 Alternatives to Journaling for People Who Simply Don’t Wanna
We’re not all Virginia Woolf, okay.
Go Ahead—Quit the Books and Shows You’re Not That Into
The case for not wasting your precious free time on ‘meh’ entertainment.
How to Handle ‘Energy Vampires’ at Work
Because working through a pandemic is draining enough.
3 Things to Do If You Wake Up in the Middle of the Night and Can’t Go…
Try not to freak out.
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