The Best of SELF
10+ most popular SELF articles, as voted by our community.
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Go Ahead—Quit the Books and Shows You’re Not That Into
The case for not wasting your precious free time on ‘meh’ entertainment.
SELF on Better Living
How to Feel Like You Have More Free Time Even If You Don’t
Making space for doing nothing is part of it.
SELF on Mental Health
The Best Way to Deal With Your Most Miserable Feelings Might Be…Doing Nothing
Sitting with uncomfortable emotions can make them more bearable.
«Acceptance is an active choice that you’re making in the moment to cope with a feeling that you don’t want, but that you can’t do anything else about right now,»
SELF on Mindfulness
What Does It Mean to Really, Truly Rest?
And when are we just swathing toxic productivity in soft pants and a robe?
These Stress-Relief Activities Actually Work, According to Therapists
Consider this your calming toolkit.
SELF on Relationships
Here’s How (and When) to Talk About Deal Breakers in a Relationship
Boundaries are important, but what really constitutes a deal breaker?
5 Questions to Ask Yourself If You Think It’s Time to Dump a Friend
Does your friendship have to end or can it change instead?
SELF on Self Care
Self-Care Isn’t Enough—We Need Political Action
Our health and well-being is dependent on systemic change and robust systems of support.
SELF on Tiktok
TikTok Is Changing the Way We Talk About ADHD—For Better and Worse
The app has shed much-needed light on the condition, but many of the videos are also misleading.
«Girls with ADHD, who tend to be more forgetful or disorganized than hyperactive, often aren’t diagnosed until later on in life, studies suggest»
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50 of Our All-Time Best Mental Health Tips to Help You Feel a Little Bit Better
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How to Handle ‘Energy Vampires’ at Work
Because working through a pandemic is draining enough.
How to Actually Make Friends as an Adult IRL
When you meet someone you like, make it obvious.
How to Find Your Childhood Vaccine Records If You Have No Idea Where to Start
Try these tips if your mom doesn’t know.
Does Deleting Social Media Actually Do Anything For Your Mental Health?
Thinking about deleting social media for a little while? Here's what you need to know about what a social media cleanse might do for your mental health.
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