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Refinery29 on Decision Making
Decision Fatigue Is Real — And It Might Be Why You’re Feeling Overwhelmed
After a long day of having to make high-pressured decisions about so many different things, I had absolutely nothing left in me to make any more choices. And this isn't the first time this sort of…
«do not try to aim for perfection when making decisions»
Refinery29 on Fashion
How To Unlearn What Society Told Us About Outfit Repeating
Avoiding outfit repeating is a privileged mindset that almost nobody can keep up with, yet the pressures still exist.
Refinery29 on Parenting
A Message To TikTok Parents Who Use My Face To Make Their Kids Cry
The cruel New Teacher Challenge is a viral prank making its way through TikTok that uses disabled faces like mine as the punchline.
Being Adopted At 5 Taught Me What Family Really Means
Refinery29 staff writer Jessica Morgan was adopted when she was 5 years old. Here she explains what she's learned about family.
Refinery29 on Relationships
I’m Single, & I’m Not Dating. Why Is That So Hard For People To Understand?
Do you really need to be actively dating or working on your career just because you're not in a relationship?
«People are more than their relationship status, and that doesn't need to invite presumptions about what's wrong, or broken, or in the works»
Is Therapy-Speak Ruining Our Relationships?
Picture this. Your friend has been acting distant for a few weeks. You ask her if everything's okay. "I've treasured our season of friendship," she says calmly, a distant, bittersweet smile on her…
Refinery29 on Remote Work
In The Age Of Hybrid Working, Are Work Friendships A Nostalgic Dream?
While previous statistics have shown that work friendships are crucial to a happy working life, new data shows that employees are lonelier than ever.
«Make sure that you find ways to use your voice and share your work on weekly meetings, group calls, quarterly summaries or another way you can [think of to] showcase your work," she suggests.»
Refinery29 on Stress
Breathing Is Hard, Apparently!
Not to add another thing to your plate, but apparently most of us (like up to 80%) breathe too shallowly, which can make us feel stressed and exhausted — we're not getting in enough air, after all.…
«The perfect breath, according to Maz, is also all about timing: “It’s about 5.5 seconds in and 5.5 seconds out — equal parts inhale exhale,”»
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Why Is Everyone Feeling So ‘Stuck’ Right Now?
If you feel like you’re in a funk at the moment, you’re not alone. Here, clinical psychologist and Headspace App mental health expert Mary Spillane explains how to get yourself out of a rut.
«We can all better our mental state by being a little more mindful each day, and by taking a moment to reflect and assess what we want from our future, we can help live each with a sense of purpose.»
From Salary Guilt To Imposter Syndrome: Here’s What It’s Really Like To Work With Your Best Friend
Would you want to work with your best friend? We chat to the After Work Drinks podcast duo and others who have done just that.
Say More Than Gay: How LGBTQ-Inclusive Education Can Save Lives
Laws like the "Don't Say Gay" bill attempt to regulate nearly every moment of a young person’s life, reaching the hand of government into exam rooms, living rooms, locker rooms, and — the place where…
Is That All There Is? Why Burnout Is A Broken Promise
What comes after being thoroughly disillusioned with your job?
«I have internalized capitalism — which is when you really think of yourself only in terms of your ability to work,»
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