7 min read · Jan 26th · How to get started with getting started.
The humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow distinguished between two types of choices we make, fear choices and growth choices. A fear choice is born of insecurity, a choice made for the sake of security or safety, driven by a need to avoid failure or disappointment. But at what cost? We may turn down a promising job opportunity, thinking it isn’t a good fit, when in fact our choice is based on avoiding potential failure. On the other hand, when we make a growth choice, we put reward over risk, choosing to do something, despite the risk, that might make our life more meaningful or rewarding. As Maslow wrote, “One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.” So which will be the determinant of the choices you make in life, fear or growth?
Procrastination is reinforced by a powerful reward—relief from anxiety.
Apply the "good enough" standard to yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. You just need to be good enough. Setting unrealistically high standards prevents you from trying because of the fear of not meeting the unreasonable expectations you place on yourself.
4 min read · May 20th · How to overcome this surce of anxiety to achieve your goals
With success comes change. This fuels anxiety because we are creatures of habit who find comfort in our routines. We hesitate to enter uncharted waters even if this is our best course of action.
The fear of success can prevent you from reaching your goals. The first step to overcome this fear is to develop self-awareness and understand how it presents in your life. Detecting this fear may be subtle if it takes on the form of procrastination
When we are anxious, we zoom in on our fears. We fixate on the worst-case scenario even if it has a low probability of occurring. We treat our worries as inevitable and imminent even if they are only hypothetical scenarios that live in our minds
10 min read · 2020-12-23 · The other day I made an advice thread based on Jacobian’s from last year! If you know a source for one of these, shout and I’ll edit it in. Possessions 1 .If you want to find out about people’s…
Are you on the fence about breaking up or leaving your job? You should probably go ahead and do it. People, on average, end up happier when they take the plung
Discipline is superior to motivation. The former can be trained, the latter is fleeting. You won’t be able to accomplish great things if you’re only relying on motivation.
The 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes of screenwork, look at a spot 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This will reduce eye strain and is easy to remember (or program reminders for).
8 min read · May 12th · Are you too busy with work that you sometimes lose motivation to study? Here are some tips on how to build and maintain your motivation despite being busy.
Quotes that inspire need to be easy to remember, connect with you on a personal level, and fire up your passion, enthusiasm, and goals in life.
Intrinsic motivation is an incentive to engage in a specific activity that derives from pleasure in the activity itself rather than because of any external benefits that might be obtained. It sounds like, “I’m going to work hard to get that promotion so I can be more fulfilled at work.” On the other hand, extrinsic motivation is an external incentive to engage in a specific activity, especially motivation arising from the expectation of punishment or reward. It sounds like, “I really want that promotion at work to make more money.”
How we are motivated really comes down to whether the motivation is coming from within us or outside us.
~13 min read · Jan 12th · Of course we go to work for money and the people you meet can be great. But a lot of the time – though we might not quite put a finger on it exactly – we’re also looking for something else from our…
6 min read · Apr 28th · Putting knowledge into action is a great use of your assets. Don't take knowledge for granted or else, you will fail to maximize your potential.
We all learn through repetition.
Even though we have a preferred style of learning and knowing what that is is beneficial, learning isn’t about restriction. Our learning style shouldn’t be the sole learning style we rely on all the time.