7 min read · Jun 17th · Understanding dispositional negativity.
Some people are more prone to negative emotions. This is called "dispositional negativity."
Mindfulness is about paying attention to what is going on in our minds, our bodies, and the surrounding environment — and doing this in a kind and curious manner. The meta-awareness and the non-judgmental manner that characterize mindfulness are great tools for any habit change attempt in our lives.
If you consider yourself to be high on dispositional negativity, perhaps the most important thing to know is that it is possible to change. Although it’s not easy, it would probably be one of the most impactful things that you can do for your happiness and health.
7 min read · Jan 26th · How to get started with getting started.
The humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow distinguished between two types of choices we make, fear choices and growth choices. A fear choice is born of insecurity, a choice made for the sake of security or safety, driven by a need to avoid failure or disappointment. But at what cost? We may turn down a promising job opportunity, thinking it isn’t a good fit, when in fact our choice is based on avoiding potential failure. On the other hand, when we make a growth choice, we put reward over risk, choosing to do something, despite the risk, that might make our life more meaningful or rewarding. As Maslow wrote, “One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.” So which will be the determinant of the choices you make in life, fear or growth?
Procrastination is reinforced by a powerful reward—relief from anxiety.
Apply the "good enough" standard to yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. You just need to be good enough. Setting unrealistically high standards prevents you from trying because of the fear of not meeting the unreasonable expectations you place on yourself.
7 min read · 2020-05-27 · I read about 3 books in a month and 60 pages per hour. Not quite the same as Bill Gates who reads about 150 pages in an hour with 90%…
Discuss and refer the book to your friends and family. Discussion will help you discover new opinions on the same topic. Referring will help you become a better teacher. Discover new books through your friends and their bookshelves.
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Discussion will help you discover new opinions on the same topic. Referring will help you become a better teacher.