All the Things I Didn’t Tell the Men I Dated Because I Was Afraid
I played a role in my own disrespect by swallowing my truth when I felt uncomfortable. Here’s what I wish I told the men I dated.
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40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain
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«Many times when you’re angry, you focus on what someone else did that was wrong, which essentially gives away your power. When you focus on what you could have done better, you often feel empowered and less bitter.»
How I Changed My Perspective When I Was Too Angry to Be Grateful
After the earthquake I felt grief and guilt, but underneath I felt angry because lives could have been saved. Here’s why I now feel grateful.
«So I wonder: Is it possible to transform the rage that is harming me inside into something else without losing the desire to fight for change?»
10 Ways to Slow Down and Still Get Things Done
You can slow down in your every day life and still get things done. This guide will help you be mindful without decreasing your productivity.
«Small changes throughout your day can slow down your pace without killing your productivity. Go ahead and keep getting things done. Just remember you don’t need to do it all in a panicked state of stress. If you find a more peaceful process, you’ll likely be both happier and more effective.»
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