The Pleasures of Pain and the Pains of Pleasure
In his new book, Paul Bloom pushes us to reflect on the complexity of our emotional reactions. Why do we cry on our worst days and our best?
«Crying is also triggered by opposites. You might cry on the worst day of your life and on the best. Weddings and funerals; the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat.»
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The Surprising Origins of Our Obsession with Creativity
We tend to assume creativity is a timeless human value. But creativity as the concept we know today emerged in the 1950s and '60s, driven by the needs of the modern corporation.
On the Quest for Originality, Recombine the Familiar
Most of the time, success comes from a well-placed tweak, a novel combination of two or more existing elements, or the better version of an idea or product not yet perfected.
«Often, the best way to get unstuck on the quest for originality is to combine two old ideas to form a new one, rather than searching for a single, novel creative nugget»
The Time Traveling Mistake We Make When We Procrastinate
In thinking about the future in a merely surface level way, we end up traveling to a different future than the one we meant to go to.
«failing to consider how much our future self will want to avoid the same negative emotions that we’re trying to avoid right now.»
Lived Experience Makes the Work Better
But it’s exhausting when you’re one of the only ones carrying that weight.
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