Most people would agree: praise is one of the most effective ways to build children’s self-esteem. We are told to be generous with our praise, and to find as many opportunities as possible to praise… Open at source
5 min read · Aug 4th · Struggling to understand is perfectly honourable. Being wilfully stupid is something else and we should strive to fix it
At its heart was the idea that stupidity was not mere ‘dumbness’, not a brute lack of processing power. Dumbness, for Musil, was ‘straightforward’, indeed almost ‘honourable’. Stupidity was something very different and much more dangerous: dangerous precisely because some of the smartest people, the least dumb, were often the most stupid.
What exactly is stupidity? How does it relate to morality: can you be morally good and stupid, for example?
Stupidity is rather one specific and stubborn cause of error.
3 min read · Jul 17th · Facing the logical fallacies that fuel painful emotional patterns and what it takes to break them with dignity, mindfulness, and emotional maturity.
While the death of a loved one can make the notion of moving on unfathomable at first, it also makes it, by definition, inevitable — there is no other recourse, for such loss is unambiguous and irreversible.
Because the unwillingness to walk away from a hurtful person is rooted in the belief that people change, the predicament gnaws at the fundaments of human nature and our ongoing effort to better understand what we are made of.
Perhaps Arendt captured this best — this great paradox and great heartbreak of relationships with unhealed people, this false and dangerous optimism that we can ever love someone out of their trauma — in her observation that “you can’t expect somebody who loves you to treat you less cruelly than he would treat himself.”
Throughout the piece, she seems more interested in the optics surrounding work than the work itself.
She doesn’t frame his failings in terms of productivity but, instead, in terms of enthusiasm He was not bought in. This, for a class of bad manager, is the cardinal sin. Being ‘bought in’ is perhaps more important than the work itself.
Employees who don’t show enough deference to the company and, most importantly, to the manager are seen as a liability. Sometimes (especially if they are not white and male enough) these employees are deemed to be ‘a bad culture fit,’ a garbage term4 that’s often an excuse to get rid of employees who threaten the status quo or make managers uncomfortable.
2 min read · 2020-04-24 · Most career advice on the internet is from people who had some sort of meteoric success. Why read advice from someone who’s had a mediocre career? But there’s massive sampling bias. All this advice…