When you stop stressing about external outcomes — like whether you win or lose, attain a certain promotion, or achieve some other form of validation — a huge burden is lifted off your shoulders and you can focus your energy on the things you can control.
The best athletes and entrepreneurs aren’t focused on being the best; they’re focused on constant self-improvement. When you stop stressing about external outcomes — like whether you win or lose, attain a certain promotion, or achieve some other form of validation — a huge burden is lifted off your shoulders and you can focus your energy on the things you can control. As a result, you almost always end up performing better.
you need to push to the outer limits of your current ability, and then follow that hard work with appropriate recovery and reflection.
9 min read · Apr 6th · Why you might want to stop talking about your anxiety and try this instead
Modern-day humans are basically a bunch of freaked-out Neanderthals in fight-or-flight mode 24/7.
We are a cerebral culture, which makes us very equipped to deal with problems that require reason and logic — think moral dilemmas — and less equipped to deal with problems where cognitive reasoning can just make them worse.
Importantly, when we’re caught in a defensive response, the thinking brain is the last to be aware that something is wrong.
4 min read · Feb 24th · In his essay On the Happy Life, Seneca makes an extended list of rules for living a good life. Because it is everyone’s wish to live better, he says, but we are often in the dark on how to do so.…
Do the verb, rather than being the noun.
Do your job—whatever it is—well, because how you do anything is how you do everything.
Don’t try to beat other people, try to be the only one doing what you’re doing (“Competition is for losers”)
7 min read · Jun 17th · Understanding dispositional negativity.
Some people are more prone to negative emotions. This is called "dispositional negativity."
Mindfulness is about paying attention to what is going on in our minds, our bodies, and the surrounding environment — and doing this in a kind and curious manner. The meta-awareness and the non-judgmental manner that characterize mindfulness are great tools for any habit change attempt in our lives.
If you consider yourself to be high on dispositional negativity, perhaps the most important thing to know is that it is possible to change. Although it’s not easy, it would probably be one of the most impactful things that you can do for your happiness and health.
~13 min read · Jul 14th · Are you unhappy with what you see in the mirror? Getting comfortable in your own skin can be hard work, but it’s worth it
In a recent survey of people in the United States, 55 per cent of women and 42 per cent of men reported some measure of dissatisfaction with at least one element of their appearance.
So where do you start? When your critical inner voice starts to emerge with a thought such as I wish my nose were smaller, reply to it with I love my hair. For most people, the critical inner voice can be fairly easily distracted.
Some body image scholars and activists have suggested that aiming for a positive body image can keep you overly focused on your appearance. In other words, for some people, trying to feel good about how they look might involve too much thinking about their appearance.