Lucretius's view, this failure of the imagination gives rise not to an unconscious belief in our own immortality, as it does for Freud, but to a misguided fear of death
Even if Lucretius is right, however, we may fear death for the simple reason that we do not approve of the way we’ve spent our lives. (Interestingly, it can be easier to leave a life well-lived than one that could have gone much better.) Such regrets, unlike death, are avoidable, though one must take active steps in order to avoid them. Why don't we?
5 min read · May 15th · Tips to keep yourself tethered in the present when anxious about death.
It’s one thing to understand that death is inevitable and that things may be out of your control, but it’s another to be at peace with that knowledge.
Understand that worry is your brain’s way of trying to feel safe and in control. Often, people with GAD believe, consciously or not, that worrying helps prevent bad things from happening. When we worry, we feel like we’re doing something proactive, which distracts us from our feelings of panic or helplessness. But the idea that worry somehow helps or prevents tragedy is an illusion. Worrying can’t change the situation at hand.
Pursuers need to become more responsible for themselves and distancers more responsible to their partners. Anxious types must learn to go slow in dating. Distancers need to uncover their vulnerability, honor their need for love, set boundaries verbally, and learn to receive. The result is a more secure interdependent relationship, rather than a codependent relationship or solitude with a false sense of self-sufficiency