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How to feel in control when life gets tough so you can still achieve? Here're 8 tips on controling the uncontrollable in life. Open at source

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I feel isolated – becomes – I am learning to appreciate my own company and the person I am.

So tell people what you need and ask for help. By now, you can see that control is not always about control but your perception of it. When you bring everyone together to a common goal that they feel invested in, they are more likely to persevere and keep going for each other. So don’t be shy to say: On Thursdays, I need 2 hours to myself to work on yoga/gardening/me time. I need everyone to choose a night when they will cook. I need you to help me with this once a week so that I don’t end up doing too much and exhausted, unable to find the time to recharge before the working week.

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