The Best Articles in Relationships
The most useful articles and videos in Relationships from around the web, curated by thought leaders and our community.
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Top 5 Relationships Articles
At a glance: these are the articles that have been most read, shared, and saved in Relationships by Refind users in 2024 so far.
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How to win a negotiation, with former FBI hostage chief Chris Voss
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Authenticity and Purpose
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"Listener's Judo" as a skill goes beyond active listening. #shorts
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What is ...?
New to Relationships? These articles make an excellent introduction.
What Is Love?
No, seriously. What does it mean to be in love?
«Love == intimacy + passion+ commitment»
How to ...?
How To Meet Each of the 3 Sets of Needs In a Relationship
There are three sets of needs in a relationship, but they can't all be reached at once. Here, get a framework for how to prioritize them.
«many of the people I work with actually need to become needier in order to feel healthy and have more fulfilling lives. Both having needs and being needed by others are completely normal states of being»
How to have better arguments
Arguing well isn’t just about winning. A philosophical approach will help you and the other person get much more out of it
«the one who loses in a philosophical dispute gains more the more he learns»
How to Make New Friends Whether You’re an Introvert or Extrovert
Two friendship coaches break down myths about personality types and let us in on how to take part in new social situations with deeper connections — and less anxiety.
«What most people don’t know about extroverts is that although they are often the life of the party and approach new people and conversations with ease, they can end up feeling less connected and unsatisfied because their connections reach wide but not as deep.»
How to handle a lopsided friendship
If you think a pal is way less (or way more) invested than you are, here’s what to do.
«A lopsided friendship happens when one friend is more active in maintaining contact and the other friend is more passive about keeping the connection going»
How to forgive someone who isn’t sorry
Some people will never admit wrongdoing. It’s still possible for you to move forward.
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Is Your Attachment Style Creating Tension in Your Relationship?
A therapist explains how to navigate insecure attachment and find better ways to communicate and address conflict with your partner.
Why Children Need Risk, Fear, and Excitement in Play
And why adults’ fears put them at risk
How to Develop a Strong Sense of Self
By Leo Babauta Developing a strong sense of self is one of the most under-appreciated ways to be happy. To have healthy relationships, with others and with yourself. It’s not often understood, and as…
Should you be checking your kid’s phone? How to know when your child is ready for ‘phone privacy’
Is it reasonable to occasionally inspect a 13- or 14-year-old’s device, or does this undermine a new sense of privacy at this stage?
Short Articles
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How to Make Friends as an Adult
Many adults are lonely and want more friends. This article explores how to make friends as an adult in a more fun and intuitive way.
«The good news is that you’re not the only one. Not even close. Most people are spiraling and want more friends to share this crazy life with.»
Baloney Detection Kit: How to Think Sceptically and Bust Bullshit
An exploration of Carl Sagan's Baloney Detection Kit, a set of cognitive tools to help you think sceptically and bust bullshit.
«Carl Sagan’s Baloney Detection Kit is an informal set of thinking tools and techniques for evaluating arguments and detecting falsehoods»
Necessary Losses: The Life-Shaping Art of Letting Go
“We cannot deeply love anything without becoming vulnerable to loss. And we cannot become separate people, responsible people, connected people, reflective people without some losing and leav…
«It is only through our losses that we become fully developed human beings.»
The Eight Kinds of Humility That Can Help You Stay Grounded
There are many ways to be humble, according to recent research.
«Awe binds us to social collectives and enables us to act in more collaborative ways that enable strong groups, thus improving our odds for survival»
3 Things to Do If You Can’t Stop Thinking About That Thing You Said
You know, THAT thing. Ugh—why DID you say that?!
Long Articles
These are some of the most-read long-form articles in Relationships.
These Are The 8 Friends You Need To Be Happy In Life
Research shows there are 8 different types of friends you need in order to feel fulfilled. Here's what they are and how to find them.
«Want to further energize your current Energizer? Let them know how much you appreciate their enthusiasm. Reciprocate the positivity.»
Narcissism: Where It Comes From and How to Deal With It
Narcissism is way more complex and, quite frankly, way more annoying than we think it is.
«The past decade or two has seen a very public debate about the possibility of a narcissism “epidemic” in our current culture, especially among young people.»
The unbearable allure of cringe
What does secondhand embarrassment say about your own anxieties and biases?
«It was, in a strange way, freeing to see other people bumble through life, and made us think about being less hard on ourselves.»
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